Societal marital pressure is real especially when a female has graduated from the university. With family members at the fore-front, colleagues and friends harrassing you with questions like 'when are we coming to eat rice', to married friends rubbing their marriage, hubby, kids and 'marital status' on your face.
.....And then the married female BVs taunting the single ones with harsh words like Aunty Gwegwegwe, it is quite understandable then that a lady, would
desperately seek to settle down, even if its for nothing else but the feeling of belonging. But I plead with all the young ladies reading this. When people ask such questions, tell them to sit on a padded cushion and wait. They'll definitely be invited to your wedding. Don't ever let anyone make you tensed up and desperate cos that is the major factor required for that fatal marital mistake.
Spiritual husbands, household enemies/wickedness, demonic possession, and generational curses are the major factors hindering the marriage of many young women. It is an indisputable fact that marriage crowns a woman and completes her, hence the greatest curse that can be placed on a woman especially in Nigeria is that she will never get married.
I wouldn't wish that on my enemy. It'll take the divine grace of God for a woman who doesn't get married ever, to be happy in life because aside from the steady companionship and support provided by your husband, you'd have no kids to take care of you when you're old and lonely.
It is a pitiable fact,that in the midst of these spiritual problems, most young ladies compound their problems by living in the sin of fornication, under the guise of boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. This is one great sin the devil has used to keep single ladies under bondages; formidable forces of darkness possess you and operate freely without any restrictions because you empower them through sin. It is painful to see so many young ladies who are supposed to be high-flyers in life suffer poverty, depression and desperation because they departed from the way of the Lord. If you wish to be free and to have your own home and a great one at that with a God-fearing husband, you MUST have a deep relationship with God.
Call off that sinful relationship that makes you to have a guilty conscience when you pray. Regardless of the status of the guy involved and how eligible he is, call it off today!
Tell him that you want to seek the face of God. Stop visiting him. Stop calling him. Don't shove yourself in his face to remind him that you're still available.
When you sincerely do this, no matter his status, mark my words, he will come back for you. If he doesn't, keep still. A better man is on his way. Though it is not mandatory, it is advised that you go for deliverance to severe soul ties.
Seek the face of God in all honesty and purity. Pray always, esp at midnight. Midnight prayers scatter the kingdom of darkness and put them in disarray. When you pray, don't be in a hurry to leave the presence of God. Short prayers cut the full flow of God's blessings and glory upon us.
Fast as often as you can.
Give alms.
Join a society in the church and get busy.
Read at least a good book in a month.
When you visit a woman that cooks well, find out her recipes and learn from her. A good woman should know how to cook. In as much as we have different temperaments with the melancholy and phlegmatic introverts, try your best to associate and mingle with the right crowd.
You'll get connections you never knew were possible. Finally, dress well, wear bright colours, and make attractive hairstyles. Wear high-heeled shoes, catwalk and talk softly like a queen. I don't believe in the average Nigerian mentality that a born-again christian shouldn't look trendy. Moderation and modesty are the watchwords.
A deep relationship with Christ gives us this inner peace of mind that cannot be bought with money. It gives you self esteem and it endears you to people. When you do all these, believe me, getting a good husband will be the least of your problems. You'll realize that any responsible grown man seeking for a wife that gets to know you will desperately desire to make you his forever.
May the good Lord grant us all our heart desires according to his riches in glory, Amen!
Culled from Stella
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